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Amir Levine, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist, and psychologist Rachel Heller apply adult attachment theory to love, presenting it as a relationship science that can help people find and sustain love. The field, which grew from psychologist John Bowlby's work in the 1950s, holds that people behave in relationships in one of three ways. Anxious people tend to dwell on their relationships and fear a partner cannot love them back; avoidant people see intimacy as a loss of independence and try to limit closeness; secure people are at ease with intimacy. With quizzes and case studies, the authors help readers identify their own style and a partner's, and consider how genetics and early family life shape the way people approach relationships.

Andrew Huberman suggested it to anyone curious about how attachment styles shape adult romance, and to parents in particular.