I Don’t Want to Talk About It

Psychotherapist Terrence Real draws on 20 years of treating men and their families to argue that depression is a silent epidemic among men, who hide it from family, friends and even themselves because they see it as unmanly. He reads problems often thought of as typically male, among them workaholism, alcoholism, rage, abusive behavior and trouble with intimacy, as attempts to escape depression that hurt those they love and pass the condition to their children. Real describes how men can bring their pain to the surface, heal, repair relationships and break the cycle of abuse. Patient stories sit alongside his own experience as a father of two young sons who grew up with a violent, depressed father himself.

Peter Attia called it one of the most important books he has read, saying he has reread it and given copies to many friends.